The thing about Self love is, you kinda need to have some time to yourself to develop it. 

Of course we are communal creatures by nature, and it's important to experience life with others; however, spending time with just your Self is really the only way to explore it and grow intimate with it. 

A way that helps me process this is to think of my inner Self as another person.

If I were interested in getting to know a new friend, I'd spend some time with her. I would learn about her,...

We are all familiar with the effort and time that goes into lifting weights  (though we may not all have personal experience with it), but let's break it down and use it as a way to explore other areas.

Let's say I want to get fit, so I head to my neighborhood gym and sign up. It's Day 1 in the gym, would you expect me to be able to deadlift 200lbs? What about bench press my own body weight? How long do you think I could run on the elliptical?

Better questions: Would you...

For Day 4 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge I was tasked with interviewing someone on video. I am so happy with my choice. Not only did I get to know this woman more, whom I respect and admire, but I received some much needed reminders for how I want to show up in the world. 

" If we can all know who we are and stay true to ourselves, let everybody else do the rest."

Please join me today in getting to know Patricia Selmo! 

To date, shame has never worked well as a catalyst for change. 

Before we dive in, let's briefly distinguish between guilt, shame and being accountable. 

- Guilt is a result of believing you've done something bad. It has to do with the act, not the actor.
- Shame is a result of believing YOU are bad, that something is inherently wrong with you. The act may be perceived as bad, but it's the actor at fault.
- Being accountable is the result of taking ownership...

Upon initial introductions people often want a list of credentials to gauge your value. I totally get it. It is a really easy way to determine if someone has been given the stamp of approval externally instead of trying to figure that out internally. 

I see two issues with this, however.

1.) It places a person's value on a piece of paper. No paper = No value. I think we all know how silly that really is. Lots of people who don't show up positively in the world have all sorts of...

It is October 1, 2019. This marks Day 1 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge - a one month initiative to write every day. I've never participated in anything like this. I'm more excited than anything. I love to write, yet I don't always have the discipline to sit down and do it daily.

This challenge is not just a way for me to write some new words but to eat the ones I'm always putting out there to y'all.

One of the strongest beliefs I hold is that we cannot thrive alone. Yes, we...

If you feel you are not happy with who you are, do not be fooled into thinking this is because something is wrong with you.

Nothing can ever be wrong with you. In truth, you are perfect (though perfect may not look exactly as you expected). 

Instead consider this feeling of dissatisfaction with yourself to be a clue that you are out of alignment with self. 

It is not difficult to be out of alignment with self. In fact, it is a process that begins the moment someone feels...

I realize not everyone has the desire for details, so I'll give the short version up front, and anyone who wants to know the full story can keep reading. Deal?

The traditional business model in the healing/coaching industry is not one of service but of sales and marketing. Plain and simple.

How do I know? 

Cuz I took courses on it, built my business in it with the help of a top coach and ran my business under it up until September 2019. Yes, I, too, did each and every one of the...

I don't know if there is something very wrong about me or perhaps very right, but I cannot sit like a normal person. The outside table where I write this drives me nuts every morning as it attempts to coerce me into a standard seated position. I CAN'T DO IT, Table, so just BACK OFF! Why won't this table just let me be who I am?! I've come to terms with it, why can't the furniture?

Of course life would be easier if I could just fall in line. If I could contort my body to fit into the...

There is a myth going around about meditation and it super sucks because it blocks a lot of people from the most powerful tool in the toolkit -awareness. Any transformation journey, whether it's recovering from addiction or anything else, requires awareness as a foundation for any kind of major change.


Meditation is the practice of expanding awareness and learning to control the mind. A lot of people give up on meditation because they are frustrated. They sit there and they try to have a...