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You Are the Expert of Yourself and Your Life mindfulness productivity self love self-love

Nobody knows you like you know you. You are the expert of yourself and your life. 

If you're not, you're in for a lifetime of anxiety and discontent.

 

Of course it can be helpful to seek counsel outside of yourself, but only if used as a tool to reveal the truth inside...

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Get the Most Out of Halloween This Year fear happiness mindfulness


In honor of October 31st, let's take a look at our lives through the lens of this ancient holiday known to us now as Halloween.

Halloween is pretty much the bastard child of an old Celtic festival called Samhain. Before that region of the world was colonized by the Roman Empire, the Celts marked...

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Time Travel is Real happiness mindfulness tools

 

How much time do you spend reflecting on your past?


If you're like most people, reflections tend to fall on all of the times you misspoke, misstepped, misunderstood or simply missed out. Our present can be plagued by I should have done _____________ differently from the past, which has...

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How to Have More Fun More Often! mindfulness self-love tools


Fun is not universal.


That may be common knowledge, but it is something I learned not long ago. After I got sober, fun was one of the many parts of my life I had to reexamine. It was one of the most surprising parts of my life I had to reexamine. 


It never occurred to me...

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How to Become a Witness of Your Own Life mindfulness self love

 

A really important element in self-love is being able to use information about yourself to optimize your life.

 

Self-love is wonderful all on its own. It will change your life, your relationships, your finances, your desires, pretty much everything. If there is only ONE thing to...

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3 Ways to Get to Know Your Self mindfulness self love


The thing about Self love is, you kinda need to have some time to yourself to develop it. 


Of course we are communal creatures by nature, and it's important to experience life with others; however, spending time with just your Self is really the only way to explore it and grow intimate with...

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Is this Shortcut Limiting Your Life? happiness mindfulness relationships tools

 

Upon initial introductions people often want a list of credentials to gauge your value. I totally get it. It is a really easy way to determine if someone has been given the stamp of approval externally instead of trying to figure that out internally. 


I see two issues with this,...

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There's Nothing Wrong with You happiness mindfulness self love


If you feel you are not happy with who you are, do not be fooled into thinking this is because something is wrong with you.


Nothing can ever be wrong with you. In truth, you are perfect (though perfect may not look exactly as you expected). 

Instead consider this feeling of dissatisfaction...

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Mini Meditation Post mindfulness tools

There is a myth going around about meditation and it super sucks because it blocks a lot of people from the most powerful tool in the toolkit -awareness. Any transformation journey, whether it's recovering from addiction or anything else, requires awareness as a foundation for any kind of...

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Authenticity: Trendy or Transformational? Part 2 happiness mindfulness personal story self love

This is Part 2 of this post, so if you missed it, check out Part 1 now.


So what in the F am I supposed to do if I am constantly told I'm not good enough but also that I have to project to the world that everything is fine!?!?!?

 

 

For most of my life the answer was to hide. Hide my...

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Authenticity: Trendy or Transformational? Part 1 fear mindfulness self love


Authenticity
has become one of the biggest buzzwords lately. Like all of a sudden there's this new thing called being yourself!

 

The fact that this has turned into a "trend" tells me one scary thing: as a society we have gotten so used to pretending to be something/someone we're not that...

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Three Tips for Thriving in Your Energy's Winter mindfulness self love tools

Do you ever have days when you just can't seem to focus? Times when your 100% isn't as powerful as you feel you need it to be? Periods of your life when you have so much you need to do, but you don't have the energy to begin let alone complete all of it?

Yeah, me too. In fact, I'm in one of those...

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How Much Does Your Past Weigh? fear happiness mindfulness personal story self love tools

 

Back in 2016 I was traveling a lot for work. I remember one month when I took something like 2 dozen flights. It was nuts and fun and tiring. Either way, I had a lot of time to sit and to think on those planes. I recall one such trip when I was sitting near the back of the plane on the...

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Could you use more time every day? happiness mindfulness productivity tools


Have you ever said any of these phrases to yourself or others?

"I would exercise more if I had the time."

"I don't have time for hobbies/vacation/fun."

"If I had the time I would work on my book/passion/invention/etc."

If you have, you are not alone. "I don't have enough time" is one of the first...

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How Do I Develop Self Love? happiness mindfulness self love tools

  

This is one of the top questions I receive from people and for good reason. We live in a culture that teaches us that we're not good enough as we are. We come from generations that were taught to "power through", "toughen up", and "not air dirty laundry". We received the message...

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Mental Illness and Marathon Running mindfulness self love tools

 

Going through life with mental illness is like running a marathon with an added 100lb weight on my back. 


I don’t love the metaphor of life as a marathon, because that is really not how I see it, but it works for this analogy, so let’s go with it.

The marathon itself...

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The Weight of Water happiness mindfulness

 

I think a lot of creativity and color is lost in convenience.

Americans are weighed down by how easy it is to survive alone here. I know it brings many advantages with it, advantages others would surrender a lot for, but it brings intangible disadvantages with it as well. Take for example...

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Doing the Dishes in Traffic fear mindfulness personal story

When my partner and I began living together he inherited full grown dogs, and I inherited a growing garden - something I had always dreamed of. It isn't huge, and we certainly couldn't live off of its contents, but the act of nurturing it has taken its place in my daily routine. I thoroughly...

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Do You Struggle To Unplug? mindfulness productivity self love tools

Lots of people I talk to nowadays struggle to unplug from work. And no wonder considering that for most of us it's right at our fingertips day and night!

Work as an area of addiction is particularly tricky. In America it is celebrated when people sacrifice life, healthy, fun, happiness and family...

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Mountains in Airports mindfulness personal story


Airports are very special places.

 

My new path has taken me to many terminals, and they all have one thing in common. Among the Chili's Express and the souvenir shops sits something I've never noticed. A powerful energy exists within these hubs that is unmatched anywhere in the world. I've...

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