Failing to Succeed: A Journey of 10,000 Steps happiness personal story recovery self-love


I really struggled with the idea of becoming a guide. I couldn’t help but think, “Who am I to be guide anybody?”

I’m not famous. I haven’t climbed my way to the top of the proverbial ladder. I haven’t won any awards or been recognized among the ...

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Boundaries for a Better Life happiness relationships self-love tools

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

"When I get home from work, I am just too tired to write the novel I've been planning."

"The best time for me to workout is in the morning, but I've got to get the kids ready for school while my husband is at the gym."

"I try not to, but I always end...

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Do You Struggle To Unplug? mindfulness productivity self-love tools

Lots of people I talk to nowadays struggle to unplug from work. And no wonder considering that for most of us it's right at our fingertips day and night!

Work as an area of addiction is particularly tricky. In America it is celebrated when people sacrifice life, healthy, fun, happiness and family...

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Mental Illness and Marathon Running mindfulness self-love tools

 

Going through life with mental illness is like running a marathon with an added 100lb weight on my back. 


I don’t love the metaphor of life as a marathon, because that is really not how I see it, but it works for this analogy, so let’s go with it.

The marathon itself...

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Authenticity: Trendy or Transformational? Part 1 fear mindfulness self-love


Authenticity
has become one of the biggest buzzwords lately. Like all of a sudden there's this new thing called being yourself!

 

The fact that this has turned into a "trend" tells me one scary thing: as a society we have gotten so used to pretending to be something/someone we're not that...

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How Do I Develop Self Love? happiness mindfulness self-love tools

This is one of the top questions I receive from people and for good reason. We live in a culture that teaches us that we're not good enough as we are. We come from generations that were taught to "power through", "toughen up", and "not air dirty laundry". We received the message that having...

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How Much Does Your Past Weigh? fear happiness mindfulness personal story self-love tools

 

Back in 2016 I was traveling a lot for work. I remember one month when I took something like 2 dozen flights. It was nuts and fun and tiring. Either way, I had a lot of time to sit and to think on those planes. I recall one such trip when I was sitting near the back of the plane on the...

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Three Tips for Thriving in Your Energy's Winter mindfulness self-love tools

Do you ever have days when you just can't seem to focus? Times when your 100% isn't as powerful as you feel you need it to be? Periods of your life when you have so much you need to do, but you don't have the energy to begin let alone complete all of it?

Yeah, me too. In fact, I'm in one of those...

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Get Back in Line! fear happiness personal story self-love

I don't know if there is something very wrong about me or perhaps very right, but I cannot sit like a normal person. The outside table where I write this drives me nuts every morning as it attempts to coerce me into a standard seated position. I CAN'T DO IT, Table, so just BACK OFF! Why won't...

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The Gift Economy vs Traditional Business Model productivity relationships self-love tools
I realize not everyone has the desire for details, so I'll give the short version up front, and anyone who wants to know the full story can keep reading. Deal?

The traditional business model in the healing/coaching industry is not one of service but of sales and marketing. Plain and simple.

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Shame Is Not a Catalyst for Change. So What Is? self-love

 

To date, shame has never worked well as a catalyst for change. 

 

Before we dive in, let's briefly distinguish between guilt, shame and being accountable. 

- Guilt is a result of believing you've done something bad. It has to do with the act, not the actor.
- Shame is a...

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Can't We All Just Get Along? self-love

For Day 4 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge I was tasked with interviewing someone on video. I am so happy with my choice. Not only did I get to know this woman more, whom I respect and admire, but I received some much needed reminders for how I want to show up in the world. 

" If we can all...

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Self Love is a Muscle self-love

 

We are all familiar with the effort and time that goes into lifting weights  (though we may not all have personal experience with it), but let's break it down and use it as a way to explore other areas.

 

Let's say I want to get fit, so I head to my neighborhood gym and sign up....

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3 Ways to Get to Know Your Self mindfulness self-love


The thing about Self love is, you kinda need to have some time to yourself to develop it. 


Of course we are communal creatures by nature, and it's important to experience life with others; however, spending time with just your Self is really the only way to explore it and grow intimate with...

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What I Learned from Being Homeless healing self-love


For about eight weeks this summer I was without a home. As you can imagine, it was a pretty challenging time. But I gotta tell ya, I gained an awful lot by living with less.

 

I learned some invaluable lessons during this difficult time that resulted in gifts I can carry with me for the...

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How to Have More Fun More Often! mindfulness self-love tools


Fun is not universal.


That may be common knowledge, but it is something I learned not long ago. After I got sober, fun was one of the many parts of my life I had to reexamine. It was one of the most surprising parts of my life I had to reexamine. 


It never occurred to me...

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Today You Have a Choice self-love

 

You have the opportunity to be loved today deeper and stronger and more thoroughly than you've ever been loved before.

 

There have been times in your life when you've been treated unfairly.

Someone hurt you when they should have protected you.

Your cries for compassion have fallen on...

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The Most Unmet Human Need happiness relationships self-love


I want to keep my post short today because it really is simple. 

 

I don't often make blanket statements or recommendations. I believe we are all on our own path with our own purpose and live lives that honor that. However, I have found one thing to be true across the board no matter...

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Advice for My Teenage Self happiness self-love


Today I was asked what advice I would give my teenage self if I could go back with all the info I have now.



Certainly there are many warnings I could give her knowing the difficulties she has coming her way...

I could share with her the outcomes of some of the destructive choices she's considering...

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You Are the Expert of Yourself and Your Life mindfulness productivity self-love self-mastery

Nobody knows you like you know you. You are the expert of yourself and your life. 

If you're not, you're in for a lifetime of anxiety and discontent.

 

Of course it can be helpful to seek counsel outside of yourself, but only if used as a tool to reveal the truth inside...

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